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cumming on command
Jan. 26th, 2008 03:37 pmOrgasm control, particularly the ability to orgasm on command, is something the Top is very interested in.
I am less enthusiastic for various reasons. I need more than one hand to count the number of male lovers who said my vagina was "broken" because I couldn't orgasm readily for them from whatever stimulation they were providing me with. Orgasms and I have a touchy relationship.
It is difficult for me to reach orgasm quickly. It requires a lot of stimulation, physical and otherwise. Other people being present makes it even more difficult, but sometimes I can't even orgasm by myself.
When the focus is on my pleasure, I get anxious and worry that my partner is getting bored or tired. If this goes on for more than 10 or 15 minutes, I will ask them if I'm boring them and tell them they don't need to do this.
Most of the time when I try to reach orgasm and fail, I cry. I feel like a huge disappointment. And if I'm trying and not getting there but haven't given up yet, it's the same deal
If someone is telling me to orgasm or If there is the threat of punishment if I do NOT orgasm, I get anxious and it becomes more difficult.
If someone is beating/slapping me while I'm trying to orgasm, I lose focus and it becomes more difficult.
So I don't know how training me to orgasm on command is going to go. I told the Top I don't feel I'm ready, but he thinks I am. Last night he tried to start and told me I'd go to the basement if I couldn't and it just didn't work at all.
Later in the evening though, he just sat next to me and held me and let me use a vibrator as long as it took and then I was able to.
I am less enthusiastic for various reasons. I need more than one hand to count the number of male lovers who said my vagina was "broken" because I couldn't orgasm readily for them from whatever stimulation they were providing me with. Orgasms and I have a touchy relationship.
It is difficult for me to reach orgasm quickly. It requires a lot of stimulation, physical and otherwise. Other people being present makes it even more difficult, but sometimes I can't even orgasm by myself.
When the focus is on my pleasure, I get anxious and worry that my partner is getting bored or tired. If this goes on for more than 10 or 15 minutes, I will ask them if I'm boring them and tell them they don't need to do this.
Most of the time when I try to reach orgasm and fail, I cry. I feel like a huge disappointment. And if I'm trying and not getting there but haven't given up yet, it's the same deal
If someone is telling me to orgasm or If there is the threat of punishment if I do NOT orgasm, I get anxious and it becomes more difficult.
If someone is beating/slapping me while I'm trying to orgasm, I lose focus and it becomes more difficult.
So I don't know how training me to orgasm on command is going to go. I told the Top I don't feel I'm ready, but he thinks I am. Last night he tried to start and told me I'd go to the basement if I couldn't and it just didn't work at all.
Later in the evening though, he just sat next to me and held me and let me use a vibrator as long as it took and then I was able to.
