potential slavegirl arrives
Dec. 16th, 2008 03:05 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
topthemonkeyPotential Slavegirl got in last night. I'm unsure if we moved too fast, sexually speaking, but the Top had been working up to this for at least 6 months, so perhaps it was the natural outcome. I like her a lot. I mean, I liked her before, but getting to know somebody in person is different than online. Everything has gone really well so far (granted, it's been less than 24 hours, but still) and all my concerns have pretty much died down.
One thing is frustrating me. The Top will refer to her as a/his slave and/or submissive and then the next minute he'll say how he doesn't want to get ahead of himself, she's not his yet, she's not being trained yet, they're just friends, etc. -rolls eyes- I understand the desire to take it slowly, especially given the dynamic at play. But they're not just friends. This is what bothered me so much in the beginning, that he refused to admit that they were in a relationship. Because they are. And I feel like he's jerking her around a bit, calling her a slave and then saying that she's not.
It's obvious they're more than friends. It's obvious that they have a D/s dynamic and they both want to take that to the Master/slave level. It's obvious the Top is trying to both slow things down and move full speed ahead, and that's where the issue lies, because you can't do both, not at the same time. Maybe she hasn't "officially" been in training, but since when has anything "official" mattered to us?
I think perhaps I'm making it out to be a bigger deal than it is. We're all happy she's here. I was so afraid there would be, I don't know, chafing, I guess. Trying to fit three puzzle pieces together when they don't quite fit. But instead it was like everything just fell into place, it was totally natural.
I anticipated the Top and Potential Slavegirl having NRE but what I didn't see coming at all was that I'd feel it with her too. Well, maybe not quite NRE yet but a certain nervousness I get around girls I'm attracted to when we first get together and there's potential for a relationship.
One thing is frustrating me. The Top will refer to her as a/his slave and/or submissive and then the next minute he'll say how he doesn't want to get ahead of himself, she's not his yet, she's not being trained yet, they're just friends, etc. -rolls eyes- I understand the desire to take it slowly, especially given the dynamic at play. But they're not just friends. This is what bothered me so much in the beginning, that he refused to admit that they were in a relationship. Because they are. And I feel like he's jerking her around a bit, calling her a slave and then saying that she's not.
It's obvious they're more than friends. It's obvious that they have a D/s dynamic and they both want to take that to the Master/slave level. It's obvious the Top is trying to both slow things down and move full speed ahead, and that's where the issue lies, because you can't do both, not at the same time. Maybe she hasn't "officially" been in training, but since when has anything "official" mattered to us?
I think perhaps I'm making it out to be a bigger deal than it is. We're all happy she's here. I was so afraid there would be, I don't know, chafing, I guess. Trying to fit three puzzle pieces together when they don't quite fit. But instead it was like everything just fell into place, it was totally natural.
I anticipated the Top and Potential Slavegirl having NRE but what I didn't see coming at all was that I'd feel it with her too. Well, maybe not quite NRE yet but a certain nervousness I get around girls I'm attracted to when we first get together and there's potential for a relationship.
