I've seen quite a few articles recently on facials
. For those of you who don't know (I try not to make assumptions) and don't feel like clicking on the link, a facial involves a man ejaculating onto someone else's face. This practice is extremely popular in mainstream, heterosexual porn. Anti-porn people deride the facial as degrading, normalizing the humiliation of women. I think the reason facials show up so often in porn is manifold. It is proof that the man actually did climax, a viceral indication. I've heard it's safer than ejaculating in an orifice, less likely to transmit diseases, but I'm not sure about that.
I think the danger, as with any pornography, comes when consumers cannot distinguish between fantasy and reality. I have known many stupid young men who form their ideas of what sex should look like from mainstream porn. No, you didn't see him put the lube on her anus, but trust me, it's there. All women do not shave their genitalia. That said, I think porn can give people ideas they might like to try out themselves, and I don't see why facials couldn't be one of those ideas.
Violet Blue's "this week’s SF Chronicle column: sperm facials in high-end NYC salons
" wherein she links to the article she wrote. The only reason I'm linking to her blog post about the article is because of that great picture, which I used for my icon. The actual article is here: The Skinny on Spermine: Not Exactly Snake Oil. Violet Blue: Straight guys getting sperm facials "for science."
In my experience, sperm is a great moisturizer, so this makes sense. However, the substance Spermine does not contain actual sperm. How misleading. The article she refers to in the title is "Spermboarded" by Marty Beckerman
. I wasn't entirely comfortable with Beckerman's article. I felt it was a bit, ew, sperm! I'm a man and there's sperm on my face! tehehe.
On to the more controversial articles. Many of them references each other, so I'm posting them in chronological order.Facials: Are They Demeaning? by Jessica Wakeman
Wakeman's answer: not inherently. I concur.Semen Facials Are Like Weddings by Amanda Hess
The last paragraph sums Hess' article up very well: See, facials are like weddings. We all know that the institution of marriage is one of the patriarchy’s all-time greatest hits, in which women are sold into sexual slavery from father to husband in exchange for livestock. And yet, who derives the greatest joy from weddings? Women! It’s the craziest thing. . . even though we all know it’s sexist as fuck, weddings—like facial ejaculation—still make some people happy. And feminists deserve to be happy, too. But that doesn’t mean we should forget about the sexist tropes that sometimes inform our happiness (and our sex lives).
I think Hess grossly oversimplifies the debate over facials. Facials can make people happy, EVEN feminists, but watch out for that patriarchal influence! In other words, do what you want but it's worth thinking about why you want it. HOW INTERNET PORN IS CHANGING TEEN SEX: Forget awkward fumblings in the back of the bus. Junior's thinking more along the lines of reverse-cowgirl anal
I am irked that the writer makes references to studies zie does not directly cite (e.g. Pornypornporn in The Journal of Porn December 2008) so there's no real why the reader can verify the information besides trying to Google key words. Considering the standard climax to even the most vanilla hard-core scene today, that means there is an entire generation of young people who think sex ends with a money shot to the face.
I've not personally met any of these people, but that's not to say they don't exist. Still, I found this article a little too big on the generalizations.I Blame Porn by BeckySharperNow, I'm not going to tell anyone that their kinks are wrong.
(Except she's totally about to.) . . .If you like having dudes come on your face or you like being completely hairless, that's your perogative. But let's not deceive ourselves, these behaviors are strictly porn-inspired. They were not mainstream until recently, and it's perfectly clear that they are tied directly to the rise of DVD and internet porn. If a 22 year old woman likes them, chances are it's because she's been told--by her peers, by the porn industry, by clueless dudes who consume too much porn--that these are the things she should like.
Perhaps this is because I'm 25 and not 22, but I really don't think my fondness for facials is because my peers, male lovers, and porn have told me I should dig jizz on my face.
Madison Young is the first to respond to the article and here's an excerpt of her comment: There are plenty of queers and non-queer women who enjoy messy sex and enjoy female ejaculate, male ejaculate, piss and other fluids. This is an intimate sexual play to be fluid bonded. And to me it exhibits not an act of degradation but a deep hunger and lust for your partner that is so great that you want to swallow all of them, including their cum which is a physical manifestation of this persons release of pleasure. Why wouldn't you want to gobble that up? Why wouldn't you want to have that closeness with your partner?
Actually, I have to be feeling pretty darn submissive to "gobble" those fluids up, and the taste can be a huge turn-off, but I definitely see what she's saying.
The thing is, I actually LIKE "female ejaculate, male ejaculate, piss and other fluids
" because I find it degrading and humiliating. Andrea Dworkin (who I actually love, despite the fact that she is staunching anti-pornography) said, "It is a convention of pornography that the sperm is on her, not in her. It marks the spot, what he owns and how he owns it. The ejaculation that is on her is a way of saying (through showing) that she is contaminated with his dirt; that she is dirty." I don't think this has to be the case, but it is with me, and that's a big part of WHY I like it.I (Still) Blame Porn: A Response by BeckySharper
The first article by Sharper has 111 comments as of this post, and Sharper felt the need to respond in another article. She mostly reinforced and defended her previous points, though she was a bit clearer. The comments to this article are worth reading if only because friend of TopTheMonkey Courtney Trouble
made a great reply.